WW-is there hope? Any advise from former WW's

[LANE777]

Good evening

Hi Andrew, of course I remember your post. You were one of the first to reply to my sad state of existence. Yes I am walking unknown roads that are rough and unforgiving to the soul. Everyone one here is or was in the trial of their life.
I don't feel so new since Ive noticed a few new ones in the last few days. And oh my how my heart goes out to some of these folks. Its amazing that we make friends with complete strangers only to find some of the most amazing people on the planet in a DB Forum. We all have a sad story. We take advise from folks that have been there and done that. We try to build everyone up even on our worst days. It does make me sad to hear that some of these LBH are still living the nightmare after years. But even more so the WW is too prideful that they would rather live miserable and unhappy. I briefly went and browsed through some of your old posts and plan on reading more since I have all this new time on my hands.
I have looked back on my marriage and do recall some of the not so good or life sure is dull moments. But never really noticed anything so serious as to bring it to this. Then again the way it is explained in the book by Michelle. I was going on with life like it was fine and she was on her way out as soon as the time was right.


Sandi,
Tonight I have my two youngest and they wanted to go see their mom. So I noticed her that we would come by. She came out and saw the kids. She looked very very sad. I told her on wanted to trade her cars. I bought her a sporty red car 2 weeks before she split. I drive her old Yukon, its nice but you know its the whole point. She said for what for a few days? I said no " for good". I said the Yukon was what you wanted and that I never wanted it but now Im stuck with it. It kind of upset her. So anyways she said shouldn't we talk about this another time with out kids? I shrugged my shoulders but then realized I need to back off a little. My little asked if he could stay with her. I said sure. So I left. I came home and got him some clothes and went back. She came out...she still looked really really sad...I said whats wrong?
She said " You'll will be glad to hear that me and the OM are not a thing anymore" I just stood there. And then I said well to be honest it was never right to begin with and it would never last. Inside I was thinking this is awesome. But now she is grieving over the OM and is really having a hard time. This is where I need Sandi. I basically said well when you wanted to be separated you told me you wanted to just go be you and find yourself and then you hook up with some dude you work with. I said, what you really need to do is do what you told me and everyone else you were going to do. I said You need to be by yourself and figure yourself out. I asked if she would like a hug and she said no. I said thats fine and then I pretty much left.
So now I am home. I know I'm still deep in the woods and no where near out. I am glad the affair maybe over for now who knows...I'm not an idiot to think he's out of the picture . I really think she believes it was going to work and probably still thinks about that. So whats my next move???? I believe its still GAL and be the best version of me as possible. Maybe she blames me for the break up from OM. Although this was wonderful news to hear, Im still standing on shaky ground. And to see her hurt for another man is a different feeling of its own. Wow ...enough rambling for now. Whats everyones thoughts?