Great news ginger! Some new opportunities. Im so glad for the upswing.
Band guy at least seems open to a long term relationship. Thats the first thing to check off if you are looking for a serious partner. HC simply does not seem to want what you want and i would be turned off as well.
A lot of the houses where i live are pretty old, so we are often advised to hire a licensed engineer to inspect instead of a regular inspector. I only know this from friends and family though lol. Super hapoy for you!!!! Yay! Equity!!!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.