Ovrrnbw, it can get worse as I continue with DB?? I just started to get tough and serious with the not caving and chatting at night. What else could he do or say to make it worse?
Anotherstander, don't worry, I asked our mutual friends who wanted to reach out to him as well to please don't if they think they are helping. I'm also using my therapy time to not worry about him anymore and focus on me and how I'm doing, the things I'm planning for myself regarding work and school, etc. In the beginning I was totally defensive when you and a few others gave me advice and I think I didn't want to hear it thinking that detaching wouldn't work. I see how I was wrong in handling a lot of things now and it makes much more sense. I did take some more pics down, but honestly it was for me this time and not to send a message. I put up my son's artwork, pics or me and him together, my family, etc and it's nice to see his little smiling face on the walls more.
I've love my job and I've been focusing on that as well as looking into care and support for my son with the local autism support groups who offer babysitters, support groups, helpers for me if I need it occasionally. I have a lawyer I spoke with that I can talk to as well and he has been giving great advice. I'm not on cloud nine but I feel way less helpless and stupid than I did a few months ago. I'm realizing I'll be okay no matter what happens with this mess.
Together for 13 years, married for 8. H is 46 I'm 40 S is 6 Bombdrop in April 2018 Still in limbo as of 2019
