You are completely right. The length of our marriage prior to BD is unique. My wife is 6 years younger than me. We are both millenials, but I consider myself really outside of that generation. She was always on social media, which no doubt played into her mindset of thinking our marriage was completely broken. She always seemed to be comparing us to others without saying so. I know she is emotionally immature. Her prior relationship before me tells me that (unfortunately didn't find out until after she left from some mutual friends that went to college with her). Her relationship was really strange as her and her BF didn'd communicate. There is no doubt in my mind that she probably liked the idea of marriage, but the hard work wasn't something she was ready for.
I do hope our phyiscal separation will allow her to work on her own issues. Only issue is her family has bought into her being the victim in all of this, LOL! I can't be the one to force her to look in the mirror. But if I escape her cross hairs, eventually there will have to be some self reflection. I have grown so much myself with all of this, and have probably accepted too much blame.
Really appreciate your response. I have followed you and Steve in other people's sitchs, and you have been spot on.
