An hour later she's calls being nice asking me to come over and see the kids. I did this and she just was acting normally, chatty and cordial.Then I went to see my IC, who I have seen 3 times before, soon after BD. The first time with W and then on my own. Six months later I went to ask him about his anger management sessions, although ironically it is W that needs them, not me.
I told the IC what had happened to me internally over the last six months and about this board. It was the first time in six months I had just sat in a chair and told everything. He responded with what I can best call admiration and respect, the last time he saw me I was a pitiful, angry mess.
Some of the things I remember he said:
"Wow you've really done the work" "it's rare for men to do the work you've done" "I know you're not putting this on" "You are in an authentic place"
He quizzed me about what I had done with the pain and we talked about really feeling it and moving through it. I left feeling really proud and validated, what a great session. I'd recommend anyone who has never tried an IC just to give it a go if possible.
LBH 47 WW 47, M 15 T 18 D 11 S 14 BD, I moved out (duped) Jan 18 3 yr EA with ex-H discovered: Feb 18 I moved back in: Aug 18 (against her wishes) ...No R No M/C, continued limbo, dropping the rope!