Kiro - useful insight - I agree there is nothing written on the subject. There is a useful website I have read detailing the authors experience of MLC. It sums it up quite well for me.
My wife is moving out in the next two months as soon as the paperwork is complete. She says her feelings are real and moving out to be alone is what she wants.
The question I now have to ask is do I get on with my life or sit around in the hope she comes out of MLC within the next few years. I guess you can wait around and get on with your life at the same time?!?
Some would argue life is too short to sit around and wait; I'm sometimes of the view I want to keep my family together and uphold the vows I made to her 25yrs ago.
Some forums suggest she will come out of it in time and realise the damage she has caused and try to turn the clock back; others suggest divorce is inevitable.
I do love my wife to bits but at the moment, the feelings are not mutual and haven't been for a while. Her wedding vows mean nothing to her. Her behaviour is what is right for her, despite the pain she knows she is putting everyone through.
Why would someone want to go and live on their own when they have a loving family at their side to help and support them?
For now, I have found an inner peace when I am away from her doing things I enjoy with people I like being around.
