What you really have to decide is whether or not you want to sit around and wait for her, or move on with your life.
I know that I have decided that I'm moving on with my life. I'm not necessarily closing the door to her completely, but I'm NOT sitting around and waiting for her. I've dropped the rope and I'm ready to live my own life. If she decides at some point that she wants to do the hard work to build a new relationship together, I will consider it, but I am not going to put my life on hold hoping that her A will end and she will come back to me.
Me: Late 30s WW: Late 30s M: 12 S: 7 BD: Late April '18 (Wife left next day) OM confirmed: July '18 (20+ years older)
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. - Psalms 34:18
