The bomb woke me up, but she won't talk

[lusa]

Thanks for your kind words Hongaku,

Well there was some immediate pushback from her the next morning stating things like "you need to look for somewhere else immediately", we will tell the kids this is very temporary while you find somewhere else etc.

D11 cried when W told her, W said it was because she was "confused" and I shouldn't be coming back like this as it will confuse them. The truth is she was crying due to W reiterating that even though I was coming back we weren't getting back together.

Then for the next 3 days she was really nice and we got on well, I slept there on the sofa one night as we left early for a family day trip. We've eaten together every night and I've helped W with her work.

Then just now she has called me at work spewing about how wrong it is that I am coming back, how confusing for the kids, how we've not naturally got any closer over the 6 months we have been S. (I pointed out this is obviously due to her EA). How we will never get back together and should have divorced years ago. How she now feels really stressed and trapped.

I just validated the best I could and said we should talk calmly about the options when the kids aren't around - she was anything but calm. I haven't been stressed or angry for a long-time, but she seems to often be like that now. This obviously isn't going to be easy - but it's my house too and financially I have to do this for now. We'll just have to see what happens, I'll keeping DBing and keeping remembering believe nothing that she says. I'd be on a terrible roller coaster if I did as she keeps completely flipping her attitude from day to day.

I'll just take a deep breath and carry on!