Is It Too Late?

[WillD78]

Thanks, again. Ordered the book. It arrives Thursday.

I guess I will re-evaluate whether I am truly being passive aggressive in making that statement. Perhaps that is buried in my sense of humor.

I'm not sure if I agree that I am trying to control her and I understand that I should address this particular question with my lawyer. What I was hoping to gather from the group is whether there is a DBing way to look at this aspect of our sitch. I do not believe that me pulling back financial support will change her mind at all. I'm looking at this like I look at everything else in our family. She wants out of this MR. That means no more family time. I'm no longer her "friend." I GAL and we do things separately with our children. My question is, putting aside the legal questions, whether I should extend that to finances?

I have seen comments on other sitches recommending that LBSs cease all financial support, but this mostly seems to be when the spouse is in an active EA/PA. I don't believe that is the case right now in my sitch. I'm just wondering if this is the time to start pulling back financially; not because I want to spite her or control her, but because it is an inevitable step in this end game of S/D.

Like all things in DBing, wouldn't this be a sign that I am moving on while at the same time be a step in actually moving on? I mean, it will certainly make my life better. More money in my pocket means more opportunities to GAL, etc.

Or do I put all of that aside and simply rely on legal advice?