Yes, the "wreck our family" comment was the passive-aggressiveness. How about "She spends a few hours a week, doing what she says is preparing her new place for her big move to try to find happiness....
Also the covert contract is your trying to control her through finances. What I read was "Maybe if I keep giving her money then she will be nice to me in the D proceedings." "But if I pull back on the finances maybe she will want to stay with me for my money."
I recognize NGS because I definitely had a case of it. And still struggle with it. The book was invaluable.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
