OrangeK, I interpreted your last few messages to read that you want your wife to feel loss and to realize what she's done but I didn't see anything that indicated you want her back. It seems pretty clear it's too late for you to want her back. I apologize if my message seemed to respond to the wrong point - I was just trying to say that my husband is kind of doing what you wish your wife would do but it doesn't seem to be helping me to feel much better (or worse, or anything at all).
