Not sure DB is working? AnotherStander help!

[Jlh]

Guess what guys! I'm proud of me! I have been super strong and when he calls to say goodnight to our son I take the phone back to hang up and I'm polite but just say, "well have a good night." without the added little conversations we used to have. He seemed a little taken back by my being quick to hang up. This has been happening for a few nights now and he's been bringing up the silliest things to talk about like how he never realized that my cell phone number is from another state. Well yeah, because I lived there before I moved to his state to be with him...lol! I just said politely, "Oh really?" and didn't get into the conversation. He cannot keep doing this cake eating where he leaves yet expects to talk to both of us at night like hes just a dad/husband on a business trip calling to say goodnight to his family.

Another night he was asking about my new job and I just said, "Oh I love it!" and then wished him goodnight to hang up. Things like that. He seems a little confused by my getting off of the phone so quickly and I actually feel tough for not caving and talking for another 20 minutes with him about random little things. He ever brought up a conversation on a show he knows I'd like coming out that we would have watched together, and I just casually said, "Oh, well I'll have to watch that sometime." and then wished him goodnight again.

It's like when he calls he's pushing to find random little things to talk about after we discuss our son or any house details but I pull back and casually end the call. I thought it would hurt a lot more, but it actually feels good and (maybe in a strange way) I sort of like him trying to pursue again (if that's what he's doing.) I haven't seen him in person for a few days but I plan on keeping myself chipper and casual and if I need to fake a big smile if he asks something I don't like, such as asking to take another box from the house.

I actually have been working on getting my finances in order like paypal for my etsy shop, looking into accountants for my contracting job, etc. It feels good to have control like I did when I was younger before I turned into a stay at home wife, got lazy and lost myself. I can do this!