Well Mike, the original question was from Jon re: what to talk about during sex. His wife asked him to talk to her and he was at a loss for words. So I was giving him suggestions about what to say when they are already having sex.
As far as what to say when you are still sex starved, hmmm, that is tough as you well know. I think (like heavyheart) that we as Christians are called to be giving and loving people regardless of what we are getting in return. Easier said than done. I find that I have a hard time with "in person" encounters when I am feeling starved. I do better with emails or small written notes. Maybe that would be easier for you too.
Jonathan, regarding the sonnets, oh my you are way beyond sappy songs arentcha. I suggested that b/c I thought those cliches might stick in your brain easier and be easier to retrieve at that moment, when your brain won't be working optimally. However, if sonnets are what is in your heart then go for it! I think she just wants to hear that you love her and how devoted you are to her and her body. For some women, silence is a killer. They start wondering, Who is he thinking about? WHAT is he thinking about?? Is it ME? Etc. I don't suffer from this anxiety (thank goodness) but I can see how it would put a damper on sexual feelings!
