You give great advice and this one was no exception. My question is, how does a SSHD get past the hurt/rejection to say the loving things you speak of? I'm a pretty quiet guy and the words I say really mean something to me. I just can't say loving words from my heart just to make someone feel good. Unless my sexual needs are met, I can't "put it on" and say those kind of words. Perhaps I really am shallow/incapable of emotion/perverted as I've heard for many years.
I've never been through it, but I think I feel just as betrayed as if W had an A. In fact, I don't think I'd be bothered to find out if she was. I'd think/feel, "So what's new? She betrayed me 22 years ago."
If someone can tell me how to do this, I'd really like to know.
