My wife's midlife crisis

[kiro]

I asked her if she feels she has done everything possible to save her marriage and her reply was “No. I haven’t done anything because it’s not what I want anymore.”

My W said the same almost word for word. They can't be making that sh*t up. They must be reading that stuff somewhere, on a forum for MLCers or something. It's just way too creepy how they all say the exact same things and none of it makes any sense.

It's either that they all follow the same source (books, articles, forums, ...whatever) or this MLC thing is a real psychological disorder that must be officially recognized by all therapists and psychiatrists.


Anyway, I'm happy you're starting to detach and find yourself in all of this mess. Just remember it's a bumpy ride. Your feelings will still betray you at times. It's difficult especially at the beginning to always stay in this detached state. You'll always need to remind yourself that you cannot control her and that you need to focus on yourself.

if there is love, there is hope

I always liked this quote. But the more time passes and the more I detach and she detaches, I realize another quote, probably from the same writer, that says that we must accept that our old marriage is over. Any reconciliation, at least for my part, will almost be equivalent to marrying a new person. That's the idea of moving forward. Once there is BD, it's over. There is no going back anymore.