My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 3

[OrangeK]

I didn't miss that. my wife did the exact same thing. The day after I found out about the affair, I made her pull up his name on her phone and watched her text him saying that I knew about The affair and that they couldn't see each other anymore. I watched as he replied and said okay I understand. they had it planned ahead of time, knowing the eventuality of me finding out was inevitable. I'm telling you from my own miserable experience, when other board members say don't believe anything they say, we aren't kidding. I would bet a month's pay that the exchange that you were shown on Snapchat was planned. you are believing what you want to believe, I did the same thing for months. I still struggle with doing it now. I'm not trying to be harsh with you dude, I'm trying to spare you months of chasing your tail with a broken heart. it truly is helpful to look at other people's situations, being a third-party it's so easy to see what should be the clear path and it's so difficult to watch people bang their heads against the wall, but yet it's so easy to do in our own situations because we love the people that hurt us. literally 20 minutes ago I was crying like a grieving mother while telling my sister-in-law through racking sobs that I missed my wife, even though I I'm fully aware of all the horrible things she has done. my point is that I will readily admit that I am still often blind and stubborn in regards to my own situation, but yet it breaks my heart to read a situation like yours where you're doing all of the same things that I have been doing