It's kind of like how an alcoholic is always an alcoholic, they can reform themselves and avoid alcohol but they are still an alcoholic. They are always living on the tipping point.
Then I saw this gem:
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Let me ask you something, if your best friend came to you and said "I just found out my son is on heroin so I asked him to stop, do you think I did enough?" How would you respond to that. Quit asking people to do stuff you know they're not going to do. Take control of your life.
I'm not sure what's up with the addiction references? Do you have an addict in your life or something? I only ask because you are misguided at best about some of these things. True, someone who is addicted to alcohol or drugs is addicted for life. There is no cure - in this you are absolutely correct. However, that in no way means they are "living on the tipping point." I'm not even positive what that means other than they are one step away. teetering on relapse? Simply not true.
As for the heroin comment, I am again not sure what you are getting at here. Don't bother asking someone on heroin to stop? Is that your point? Or don't even bother as, "once a junkie always a junkie," so why bother? Again, I'm not sure, it just seems as though you really do not at all understand addiction - and are making some really clueless comments about those who suffer from this God awful disease - including some on this board as well as close family members. Drug overdose (and that includes alcohol) is now the leading killer/cause of death for anyone under the age of 50. It's a real thing for a lot of people - not a choice they make, like getting divorced or something.
I'm not at all asking for an apology or anything close to it. I'm simply suggesting you might want to learn more about addiction or refrain from making comments that don't paint you in the best light with regard to your knowledge about it. I hope I'm not coming down too hard, it just really struck me - perhaps partly because I will be an addict for life even though I've been anything but living on the tipping point for the last 9 years.
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