One other point. Everyone that posts here has an unique sitch in the DETAILS of the sitch. But we are all still dealing with a WAS, and what we should all be doing is essentially the same. With maybe a few slight tweaks. But no one's sitch is so unique that they should throw out all of the principles espoused in DB/DR (except in the case of physical abuse).
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
