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Which again brings up the juxtaposition. Logically I WANT This to happen. It is fully detachment.
I have realized I dont cope well with Change.
Fully letting go of the rope would be acknowledging that its all dead and gone, and change is happening.
But in my deep soul i Know all she has to offer is more abuse and lies.


OK, here is the thing. Detachment isn't final. Most of the people on this forum that moved to R with their WASs FULLY detached. In fact, full detachment was what finally brought their WASs to their sense. Without it, R was impossible.

The other thing is that there are other folks on here that fully detached, and then DIDN'T want R when their X or STBX came crawling back. Likely you'll fall into this category since you see her for what she really is now.

The point is that full detachment doesn't mean that you are open to future R, it just means that you will be fine either way! ItHurts is a perfect example of that!


M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018