Had a great time with the S this weekend. Im really trying to make sure I make it all about S & I. It really upsets me that he has no idea what my W is up to, and that she lies to him about what she does when she is gone. He thinks shes at a conference, while shes actually on a trip with OM and lying to both of us. At what point does son deserve to know the truth? I dont want to make it about me, but I also dont want him to keep thinking mom is so great and flawless either. One day she will have to answer to my S and God for this. He has no idea why his mom is gone all the time, comes in at 4 am, or why she doesnt tell us where she is going.
I bring up my S, because my wife has her family under the impression that Im some loser who didnt want to help out financially which is faaaar from the truth. It seems she has enlisted her siblings to lecture my S about how mom provided everything for him all by herself. My S came back and told me that it was a blatant attempt to make it seem like I didnt do anything over the years. I've given soooo much over the years and have been all about my family, so this hurts. Get family only knows her version of the story which is basically all she wants them to know. She learns on this for justification for her A.
Even though my W thinks otherwise, Ive stood up for her qith my S and told him how good of a mother he has. I couldnt have originally picked a better mother for my S, she was awesome, second to none. Even today, Id say she is still a good mother, just not what she was before MLC came into her life. Im thankful that she hasnt gone completely rogue like some stories I have read about. That said, I dont want her trying to turn my son against me because she is envious of how close we are, and I would never try to turn him against her even though she is lying to him right now.
Last edited by equalzr; 07/30/1803:36 PM.
Together:20 years M:3 years Me:40 WW:40 S15 A suspected:5/17 AC:5/18 BD:8/18 WW in full blown R w/ OM Still under same roof
