This is the key phrase in your last post. How can you possibly know what someone wants if they don't even know themselves! And due to your DBing, 180s, GAL, etc....... she is now up in the air.
The "I wish you had done this 2 years ago", or "I wish you had made changes a long time ago" is a very common refrain from WASs. 1) They are still trying to excuse their actions. "It is too late!". We've all heard that. 2) She is unsure if they are real or they are just you trying to get her back. This is a huge one. And this is why remaining consistent is so important. One begging session will undo this and you will start over from square one to try and convince her the changes are lasting. 3) They've main their "proclamation" (I want a D!), and that is not something they can or will go back on lightly. If they embrace your changes, that would be a major step towards R. And the fact that they are having second thoughts on the proclamation scares them. It took them a lot of time, consideration, and courage to make the proclamation to begin with. That is what the "let's discuss mediation" thing is all about. It is her trying to convince you, and herself!, that that is still what she wants.
Keep on keeping on. As I told another poster last week, the temptation for the LBS, once they start seeing positive effects from DBing, is to stop DBing and go back to pursuing and pressuring. That will send her running faster than anything. So fight that urge! Time and consistency. Trust me, you will no undoubtably if and when she changes her mind!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
