DavidUK- to me it sounds like your W is very ambivalent about the whole sitch, but you must detach and don't let her moods to dictate your life. I think you are doing really well actually. And in your place I would ask myself a question if I really would want to be with a person who has treated me and still continues to do in such a disrespectful way... maybe she is confused and doesn't know herself what she wants, and in a way is testing your reaction.
W34 H61 M1 T3 June-H said he wants divorce but hasn't filed. Living and sleeping in the same bed, no intimacy from H side for last 12 months.
