Sandi and Steve or anyone else who wants to chime in,
You were right. All I can say is you were right. After a wonderful week with family on vacation, WAW filed for divorce. I realize now how foolish I was to hoping things would turn around, doing things because I thought my WAW would come back. And I should have listed to you. My false hope and stubbornness and being a NG was my down fall.
Now I know the gloves come off; for me, for my self-respect, and for my growth. I read No More Mister Nice Guy. Our next trip was coming up to see my family in another state. I plan to tell my WAW, I really want all the kids to still be together to see family, but just not with her there. She can drop off the kids and we'll see her when its over.
WAW plan to nest where she leaves the house when I am there with the kids. Is there any other advice you can think of right now while I accept mea culpa? Thank you for your support.
No need to apologize. black8, the thing about DBing is you can always start. Or restart. No matter the mistakes you've made up to that point.
You have sandi advising you. You can't do better than that. Remember, DBing is counter-intuitive. It will feel like the opposite of what you think you should do. But as you found out, not sticking to the plan will not get you where you need to be. So listen to sandi and employ her advice. It may not save your marriage but it gives you the best chance.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
