WW-is there hope? Any advise from former WW's

[LANE777]

Sandi,
You always enlighten me on what I am thinking and also give me a different point of view as well. So far I think your dead on when it comes to me or the LBH. We want them to feel remorse and guilt so bad. We want them to feel the hurt they've caused.

Does the fantasy eventually come crumbling down? That is another thing that us LBS pray for every day and night. At least for me. I want so bad for her fantasy to end. I know it will take time and me GAL for her to start recognizing any of this mess she created. Its hard for me to understand how fast it all changed even though it was most likely in the works for a while. I was coasting thinking this is married life. She never once told me she was unhappy until a few months ago.
Very sneaky these WW are.

Sandi, your are right that I am denial and wanting to see my W as a moral straight person. I think this because of our marriage and having 4 kids etc. I read that when the affair ends she will work her way back and may see the damage she did to our wonderful family. Im glad you mentioned that WW rush into divorce. I don't want that of course but I was a little worried that most WW liked the best of both worlds. I do believe there is some compassion in there somewhere and it does make sense.

I really like your story Sandi. Its about a person who went through hell and back and is here to help guys like me who don't have a clue. You tell it like it is!! I like the reminders cause thats what us men need.

Today she texted me that she was tired and going home to rest and would see the kids on Tuesday. I just replied ok.
Her health issued may catch up to her sooner than she thinks. It may help lift the fog soon hopefully but you never know.
I don't know why a younger single guy needs to chase a married mom of 4 with kidney failure. Must be a hard up guy with very low self esteem. It makes me wonder what issues will start to surface that will make W see its just fantasy and not so real.

I am a Christian as well. I believe God is in my corner but can't make choices for us. We all have free agency and will have to answer someday if we don't repent. I believe in forgiveness and it takes a strong person to ask for it, it takes a stronger person to accept forgiveness.

Sandi, thanks for helping understand this WW mindset. I really hope to get this woman back. I think I have a good shot based on the circumstances. It will be a lot of work and patience, my lack of patience has cost me. However, my W and I are good parents. We still like each other. She is just very lost right now and not thinking. Like you say "she is not the girl I married"

Its very strange. I know she doesn't go out very often with OM. Its still an affair. I try not to think about it. But I know its only 1 or 2 a week. Then again a WW is sneaky and will do anything to get her fix.

Wish me luck and I will check back.

Lane