Thank you Gerda. That helps! You are right that if I stay in that line of thinking that its hard to pull away and move forward. Today was just a trigger day for me so I think I'll continue to get better...I have been on all the days I'm not having to deal with some kind of fallout, which seems to lessen over time.
and...lol, I'm more worried about her driving the kids to Austin than getting on a plane. At least on a plane the pilot is flying. Austin is a 3 hour drive away...and I think where they are going is slightly further than Austin. Her driving has always made me nervous on the best of days and the kids make fun of her driving all the time. They experience it more than I ever have because when we are together I have always been the one to drive. She THINKS she is a good driver, but not many people agree with her.
