This is a problem in my relationship also. One of the worst things about being a HD wife is that I sometimes feel like I'm pushing my children away from me in order to have more private time with my LDH. My D(12) is very social and frequently is invited to sleepovers on the weekends. I arrange things so that when she reciprocates all 6 of her "best" friends spend the night at the same time so I can get it over with. My S(15) is more of a loner and rarely goes out on the weekend.I'm considering giving him a book of movie passes and a ride to the cineplex every Friday. However, I find that if I exert the energy to get the kids out of the house at the same time it just makes me more resentful if I face rejection anyways.
Recently, I went so far as to construct a second wall between our bedroom and the family room. My husband helped with the project (I can't toenail to save my life) but I think he was just interested in a quieter space for sleeping.
I really wonder sometimes if it wouldn't be better for the kids if I had an affair so that I could relax and give them more attention.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
