Do you have a Registrar of Wills at the Court House? You may go there and see if your will is on file. If not, instead of having heated discussions with the nut, make an appointment and have a new will drawn up. By doing so, it will make the one he is holding hostage null and void. It's far less stressful and you do not tell him you've done this. Let him think he's got everything he needs to stick it to you.
As for the passports, when are they due to be renewed? You can always have new ones done. You can always say that they've been misplaced and you need to have them reissued to you.
The more you point out what he isn't doing, the more determined he will be to dig his heels in and do the exact opposite of what needs to be done. There is always another way to get what you need...it may take a little bit of $$$ and time, but the items he's holding hostage can be replaced w/o his knowledge.
They do not understand that when a divorce takes place, everything changes. He's still fighting to control things and unfortunately, the areas he's trying to control are no longer going to be areas he can. He's angry at himself and the world and no matter how hard he tries, he won't be able to control you once the divorce is final.
Check on the things that I have suggested to you. I think you will find it is far easier to possibly doing those suggestions that arguing w/an irrational nut.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
