Fake it until you can make it Jlh. It helps, none of us can master DB and for a lot of us it takes months post BD, there is no short cut. Initially when I was riling up but did not want to respond I started off by biting my tongue and responded with bare minimum words. At least it wont make matters worse IMO. This is the hardest thing for most of us in our lives, but we have decided to save the MR to our best abilities, if not at least save ourselves and improve who we are, so this is all a choice. It takes strength and patience. Good luck - Arshi
