Irish - sounds like she has some fierce paranoia over there. It's really sad. And I am so sorry that she is losing the most valuable commodity there is: time.

Keep being the tank you are.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced