Heavy, Welcome back you poor thing. Hoped I'd never see you here again.
Hey I was wondering if you had ever had a frequency discussion with your H. One along the lines of "How often would you ideally make love, in one week?"
When H and I had these conversations I was pretty surprised to find out that our hopes for a sex life were a LOT closer than I had previously thought. It was all the other crap (unrealized expectations, past disappointments) that got in the way of getting it on.
The next step for us was to make a commitment to his weekly ideal. He did that. I realize that he is unusual for LD spouses, in that he made the commitment and he stuck with it.
But what I'm really wondering is if you guys know each other sexually...that is, do you know how much sex he wants (not what you currently have) and does he know what you would like?
