The DR book arrived yesterday so I spent almost all day reading it! So many useful tips and advice, and gives me great encouragement for a way forward.
We both went for a cycle ride around London today (my suggestion) - there is a big cycling event and the roads around the central area are closed. I kept being cheerful and upbeat throughout the ride, together we helped a lady who fell of her bike, had an icecream in Hydepark after the route and when at home he said that he enjoyed it. Maybe there is hope after all.
I wanted to put down my goals here: 1) H intitates intimacy and wants children (last time we ML was one year ago) small steps would be: -H kisses me ( so far hasn't) -H hugs me when we go to sleep - nothing yet -H says a compliment- nope -H initiates ML -H says he wants a family and does something about it
2) we have lovely/easy conversations and plan things/holidays together - we talk during the meal times and in between in an easy non pressured way, we never run out of the things to talk about - we go to movies once a month - occasional weekends away in the countryside -planning a romantic holiday - Italy/France in September (well, I can dream, can't I?) - making Christmas plans -sponatneous walks/coffee around the town -visiting a gallery/theatre/concert once a month
3) H is being happy about the future with me -he finds a way continuing doing his business which struggling at the moment - he visits a doctor/looks for a help/ talks to a friend for his depression - he stops being grumpy all the time!
That's about it. How does it look? Comments/suggestions?
W34 H61 M1 T3 June-H said he wants divorce but hasn't filed. Living and sleeping in the same bed, no intimacy from H side for last 12 months.
