I am so sorry that she's still irrational and to do what she did. I'm not making excuses for her bad behavior, but it sounds like she's a very lost soul, i.e., the drugs and booze have taken a toll on her mind. If she wants no contact, then no contact it would be. If she contacts you, make a copy of the missive and stash it somewhere as evidence that she's attempting to instigate another mess.
As for your daughters, I hope your daughter had a nice birthday, in spite of her mother's behavior. I'm going to wish your other daughter a happy birthday a bit early because I'm sure you'll be busy planning that event for her. Your daughters know their own minds when it comes to their mother. She's going to discover that they don't want a thing to do w/her. It's very, very sad...but she brought this all on herself. I pray that she gets some help before it's too late.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
