Just keep DBing, lusa. Don't get ahead of her feelings and don't slip back into old ways. Consistency. Patience and perseverance. And even more patience. Read the validation thread again. Keep the pressure off and just keep earnestly working on yourself.

Yes, obviously accept the reality of D. But don't assume anything one way or the other. Be genuine and honest in your changes and you'll at least know you gave her the best you that you could and if she still doesn't come around, then it's ultimately her loss.

I applaud you moving back in the way that you did and although you think you didn't gain any respect back by doing so, I'm not so sure.

Keep at it my friend and you may yet be surprised. Rooting for you.

M: 40 W: 37
T: 20 MR: 13
S13, S9, S4
BD: 1/29/18
Sep: 4/23/18 (I moved out)
8/24/18 I come home, she moves out

If you want to get out of the hole, drop the shovel.