Sit down and really think about what you want out of a relationship. What is it that you want? I think the people you date need to see that you are very serious about wanting to get to know them (with their clothes on, not off for a period of time (LOL!)), share info w/them and to have a good time and creating a meaningful relationship. Don't be afraid to talk about what you are looking for in a relationship. It's best to be up front so that they know you are not playing around here for one night stands...but looking for a meaningful relationship that could very well last a long time. If you don't share your thoughts on what you want and need, they won't know.
I think you are a beautiful woman who needs to love and respect yourself for who you are and what you have accomplished. You have a lot to offer to a man and that doesn't mean giving up the dessert quickly. Let the man see that you are an intelligent, kind, compassionate woman who is willing to try new things. They need to see that you aren't all "fluff and a booty call". They need to see that you are serious about a real relationship. If they don't like the fact that dessert isn't being served for a while, then they aren't the ones for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
