Dating after divorce is a slippery slope. I dated too soon, spent some time on myself then jumped back in casually. Met some interesting people, met some people that became good friends and met some people that I never want to see again. The biggest thing that I realized is that I wasn't going to "settle". That I would only be with someone who made me want to be with them. No gas-lighting, no cheating, no lies, no bs, just complete and total honesty. It was tricky to get out of the mindset that I was in with my exwife. I made up lies for her bad behavior, I covered for her, I walked on ice constantly and that was the role I was used to playing. I do not ever want to be that person again.
A wise man once told me to make a list whenever I am at a crossroad. I know I have mentioned it before here, but can't remember where. A simple pro's and con's list, in this instance, it would be things you like about this guy and things you don't. Do not lie on the list, because you are only lying to yourself. When it's all on paper, you will know your answer. We, as people, especially those of us who are divorced, tend to have a tremendous amount of empathy for people. We do not often realize it, but we do feel like "damaged goods" because we carry that stigma. We do get into a subtle mindset of "they didn't want me, no one will, I better grab onto the first person who shows interest" and it often leads us into a dark path.
Focus on you, focus on your son and maybe keep it casual with NG. You have time, you don't have to everything tomorrow.
Take care.
Me: 38 W: 32 S10 D6 T: 10 (02/2004) M: 7 (12/2007) Separation 02/2015 OM confirmed 01/2015, D mentioned 12/2014 D finalized 9/2016
