Oh, PIB, you have nothing to apologize for! I'm sorry for not being more clear in my posts... forgive me dear, for age sometimes gets the better of me.
Boundaries are good for us!!! I'm really and truly feeling and seeing the benefit in stating what is important to me... not from a control freak standpoint or one of rigidity, but love. Love for myself.
Everyone has a different threshold with this issue. But yours with the smoking are fully understandable. After all, he promised to work on this when coming home... which makes it something that he should, in good faith, live up to AND respect.
I'm giggling at the thought of your convo on the book. I know that there were parts that profoundly disturbed and affected me... so forewarned. I'm reading a book now that is a perfect feminine complement to that one--Triple J recommended it. It's called Enchanted Love by Marianne Williamson.
Give that one to your H (after you read it). It's been a really good read--and guess what? It addresses setting boundaries as a reflection of self love.
I'm thinking that this topic du jour is going to be around for a bit. So I'm going to try and start the next thread before I leave today.
Peace to all!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey
