Im sorry ginger. I have always said if i was a guy, i would be smart enough to go for you. If my brothers were single, i would strongly encourage them to pursue you. Because they would be so lucky to have a girl like you.
But Most men (maybe there is a rare exception) are not going for the girl that would end up making their lives better. They are not going for the women that make them dinners from scratch. They are not going for the women that want to please them and cater to them. Instead they pursue women that are not a sure thing. That are demanding and entitled. The nicer you are, the less value you get. Betty was smart and beautiful, but they all chased after Veronica. They are all going for women that are not truly available. These boards alone are proof.
I know you dont want to play the game. But maybe just dont work so hard until they proove their worthiness to you. Why did you go out of your way for HC? You are very busy. What made him worthy of the time and expense it takes to prepare a 3 course dinner?
You teach people how to treat you.
I think double standards do exist. Its our reality. We dont like to hear it cause rationally its not fair. But that doesnt mean its not out there. For me. I would not feel comfortable sleeping with a guy, unless i knew i was highly valued by him. Not having an exclusive relationship means i am not valued enough, hence i am not gonna share myself with him that way. What do i get out of it? I think thats how you have to think... "what do i get out of it?"
