Advice on my scenario pt. 20-Shock Therapy

[hongaku]

I cannot stand co-parenting either. It really is an extremely difficult thing to navigate. We never had any issues parenting together and I'm not experiencing the kind of behavioral shift you are, but the lack of communication and miscommunication is very frustrating in my sitch. Add in the fact that my W acts in a way that suggests she just assumes that she is and will continue to be the primary parent and I'm just there for decoration because she wants to make sure I "still have a relationship" with them. I don't think that she quite understands, although I've not beaten around the bush about it, that I intend to seek 50/50 custody or as close to that as possible. Regardless of what it might mean for her financially in terms of child support and alimony. It won't be my problem at that point and it's her own fault if it ends up that way...

Just do your best with him when it's your turn OK, you can't really call her out on the way she parents unless there's obvious neglect or abuse. You're two totally different people and you are going to approach parenting differently. If you guys had been together longer and established more cohesion as parents, it might not be as frustrating in the way that it is for you right now, but believe me, it'd just be trading one kind of frustration for another.