M - No worries....I think sometimes the board over time make the LBS feel that it is not ok to take your spouse back. I know no one comes out and says it but it sometimes is assumed as we tend make the WAW into a villain.
So don't be ashamed to admit that you still love your W and want to recon with her. I am D but I don't carry it around like a badge of honor
I also hope she has not gone off the rails. You will have clarity in time
