MMM12, seems like a fine balance between being a good person who lends a helping hand and being an unhealthy person emotionally who does these things for the wrong reasons. It's hard! We can probably all label ourselves with one thing or another. It's great whenever we find a book or resource that corresponds with how we need to improve ourselves. I'll try to get that book as well. I hope it helped you and you've found yourself making progress.
One friend suggested "He's Scared, She's Scared." It's about people who have "commitment-conflict." These are people have trouble staying in long-term relationships. Apparently there are people like many of our spouses and partners here that have "post-commitment anxiety." They develop a sort of claustrophobia from being closed-in by their relationships or children after getting married or moving in together and feel a need to break free.
There are so many ways to analyze ourselves and our spouses. It's great that we do that for ourselves as part of our GAL's and 180's. It reminds me to read more of these books. There are a few that you all suggested here, including the one LoneWlf suggested, that I want to order and read.
