Husband Left for Second Time - 6

[HelenaJ]

Hey Nicole, coincidentally, I just so happen to be nearing the end of the audio for Codependent No More. I dont like the term codependent because it doesnt sound like what it is. You seem to be talking about a level of dependence that we would be able to reasonably expect from a partnership. Codependency is overcompensating for another persons severe underachievement. The underachievement in these cases is frequently a result of addiction of some sort on behalf of the underachiever and thus the codependent tries to make up for everything which enables the cycle to continue. In a normally functioning relationship, one partner doesnt typically become so enmeshed in the other that they cannot fathom letting the other person face the consequences of their own behavior. This is what a codependent does such that it ultimately takes over their life to the point that they completely lose their sense of self. See the difference?