So GAL, 180, etc. etc. put us all in a limbo state that sacrifices our children's immediate needs and keeps us all in a bad situation? Just struggling with this, how to justify it for myself, and how do WE (my entire family) make it through to hopefully the other side?
For better or for worse.......
This period of limbo is giving you a gift! That gift is to be able to look your kids in the eyes and tell them without reservation that you did everything you could to hold the family together. Even through this rough patch.
The great lie out there is that kids are better off from a broken home than in a broken home. (Some big southern bald guy likes to say that.) I say HOGWASH. Kids are better off with parents that care enough about them to put their personal wants and wishes aside for THEIR betterment. So I know you are saying "I want to do this for the kids. But deep down is it really for them? Or for you?"
You can't control what the other side ends up being. But you can control whether your family makes it through. At least you and the kids. Your wife is not in a mental state right now to be a parent that puts personal wants and wishes aside for the betterment of the kids. So you be that for them.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
