hoosjim, you need to nip this in the bud... i know this pattern... you won't like what i am going to say, but i am going to say it... she knows what she is doing when she strings you along as she stretches the time spent at the wine downs... i believe she had no control over it starting late... but she had control over how he handled it... she should have said, "sorry folks--i'll catch you next time... i need to be home with my family... i promised i would be home by X-o'clock." no excuses...
the red flag is how she tries to manipulate you... she knows she is "blurring the line," and to try to get away with it, she flirts with you... gropes you... you are wise to her, so you don't respond... she then "throws dirt and ashes on herself " (a biblical term) by referring to herself as "squishy." i know you are more concerned with her squishy boundaries than any squishy-ness of her body... you are way too early in your piecing to let these things go... you need to get back on track... see that MC now... if this derails again there may be no more "family time and family vacations..." your M is the priority...
