I read all that you said and I'm still kind of processing, but I think the fact that the 2 men rang in before me to give such sage advice probably is better anyway. What they said!
In all seriousness, the one thing that stuck out to me was your saying that you lead with sex because you feel confident there. I'd like to ask a somewhat rhetorical question here just to give you something to think about. You said in that same part of your post that you have all these positive qualities and you listed them very specifically. And, they are absolutely FANTASTIC qualities. Then you said you lead with sex because you feel confident in that particular area, which is not necessarily a bad thing. You are an adult woman with needs and you own it, so good for you. But here is my question..............in leading with sex because that is where you are confident, are you defining your worth based on your partner's enjoyment of the experience? You have so many positive qualities that you seem to recognize and those should be what you base your worth on. I know you already know that....you're a grown woman with a daughter, so of course you know that. But, do you really SEE it?
Hang in there, G. I hope today gets better for you. Know that there are lots of people out there sending you positive vibes today.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
