ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
i think you had the "R" talk just recently, and she has made it clear that she is not ready to be in a relationship... don't push it at this point... just because you two were married to each other does not mean this ought to move faster... perhaps it will move more slowly... see where it goes... see other women if you wish... but do not put her in a place where she needs to decide now or needs to decide soon... you will lose... if i were you, i would just enjoy this "newness" that only comes along when you are in a new relationship... and once you establish commitment, the newness eventually fades... it's called the warm fuzzies... enjoy it...
Oh don't worry, I'm not pushing anything at all Artista. Just taking it as it comes. Right now it's just radio silence anyway as I haven't heard from her since she got home safely that night. Kind of unusual but my intuition is telling me she realized she few things after all that happened on bonfire day and she is pondering or something. I'm sure she'll be in touch in the next couple days though so I'll keep you all posted.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Admittedly my "call to action" is based on old man impatience. As you approach 50 you get less worried about feelings and just want to cut to the truth. You realize that life is too short to sit around waiting for someone to come around.
That, and my ex-gf strung me along for years in the vein of "getting back together". That was in my 20s. Today, if I weren't married, and she came calling, I'd say right off. "What do you want? Because I have plenty of friends, so if it is just friendship I am out!"
But I like your plan IH. Give her plenty of time and then move on.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Yeah as I said, I'm in no rush whatsoever. I'll continue to spend time with her until either of us becomes involved with someone else. Maybe we'll become involved with each other.. .maybe not. But there's no reason to rush. Eventually nature will take its course and our current relationship will either cease or become serious again. For now we both happened to be single and she clearly likes spending time with me...well at least until last Saturday LOL! Haven't heard from her since though so who knows what's going on. Que sera sera.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Hahaha that would be hysterical Artista LOL! I have often gnohb if somehow she ever found me here how she would react. Since our divorce I've pretty much posted every single event that's happened regarding her so I wonder what it would be like for her to start reading my thread here from wayyyy back on part 1!! Actually I bet if even I went back and started reading from part 1 I'd be amazed at how far I've come. The pain and torture those initial months after she left were seemingly hopeless and unbearable. I never would imagine all this would be going on with WAW 4 years later. Time just flies by so fast...even when it seems like it won't.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Hi Guys, Just an update. Haven't heard from WAW since the night she made it home safe from the bonfire but texted me a little bit ago and asked if I was off on Friday. She mentioned she was going to be in my town late Friday night and wants to get together. I'll let you all know what we end up planning for the night.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Got nothing to say to you IH. Why? Because you're already doing everything so well Nice work. Keep us posted on your progress.I think you've got a great shot at recon, I'd tell you to keep your hopes tempered though, but you already know that.
Thanks AS but I'm really not doing anything LOL! I haven't texted her at all since that night...I'm just keepin' on keepin' on here LOL! Thanks though and I most definitely will keep you guys posted. She's been sending me funny movie quotes from one of our fave movies this afternoon.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Nice work. Keep us posted on your progress.I think you've got a great shot at recon, I'd tell you to keep your hopes tempered though, but you already know that.