HJ, likely this was the "tipsy-ness" coming out. Which is one of hundreds of reasons that I am pretty staunchly anti-alcohol. But I won't get off on that diatribe since it would be unsolicited. I will say that I am not a huge fan of people drinking then getting behind the wheel. But I will leave that there.

Yes she needs to see and understand that SAYING WORDS have meaning. And I would have come down pretty hard on the "let's just add 30 minutes to whatever I say" thing. Sorry, but that sounds like a teenager breaking curfew. The real issue is that you need to be able to TRUST her. If she says 5-10 minutes, and 40 minutes later is just now leaving, then what else is she leaving out? More than likely nothing, but after your recent history she needs to be trustworthy in all dealings. Otherwise you can't be faulted to think the worst.

I was on record as saying she should quit that job to get away from THE doctor. This is why.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018