Thank you for your advise. It really helped me when i needed it.
So i now text her what time im going to pick the kids up. Which is to keep the peace and leave the kids out of it.
Over the last few days, ive removed my wedding ring and no longer wear it, ive also removed all of the pictures of us together. I just thought its better for my healing process and detaching.
We went out to a local bistro for daughters birthday. Me and w had short conversations about random stuff, but then i was being pleasant with the kids and playing with them. Then her attitude seem to change and get quite cold or distant from all of us. Then she would engage the kids for things, but not say anything to me. Then she practically turned her back on me. Which took me by surprise, but i expected it, it seems to be when me and the kids are playing or talking about our time together. When we leave me and the kids are still mucking around jumping in puddles. When we get to our cars, i say bye to the kids and goodnight to W, she says see ya.
So the next day i text the W to ask what time she is going to pick the kids up, i get nothing back. Later i get a knock at the door and its the W, she appologies and says she only just saw my message. Im not judging. While she is at the door, she asks for other things she has left behind, i get them and search for another thing she wants but i cannot find it. She then asks about the wedding dress, if i have thrown it out. I say no, its in the same place where she left it, i asked her if she wanted it, she says she has no room for it. Ok, ill keep it here until you want it. Two of the pictures i took down are in direct sight from the door, one of them was a wedding picture, not sure if this is why she asked about the wedding dress.
I appreciate all your responses, when i get to a better place, i hope i can also assist like others do with me.
