My W moved out 2 months ago because she needed time and space to go find her self. Turns out there was an OM in the works.
This is very important for other posters to here.
I heard this from another anti-divorce expert (not MWD), and I repeat it often. WASs don't have to move out for time and space, or to find themselves. They have to move out because they want to sleep with other people. That is not said to hurt, it is said to wake-up. You see so many LBSs are in denial about their being someone else. in 99.99999% of the time there is someone else. Even if, as some of the vets around here point out, it is a fantasy of someone else. A monkey doesn't jump off the solid branch they are on until they've identified another solid branch to leap to.
I have to say that I had been wanting to leave W for a few days to get some space as W was being so abusive to me and I didn't have someone else, but I would have been willing to listen to W to work on the R. However, W then left days later and refuses to talk about R, wants D and had planned it in advance of leaving, and has been telling lies... so I'm confused whether she has OM or not.
