Last weekend I kind of got baited into a talk that I shouldn't have had. When he dropped off our S, I was cordial, declined ML and basically said goodbye. He called me a few minutes after he left. He said that he wanted to keep a door open to us working things out in the future and he thought I was closing that door. We did some back and forth talking, which never ends well. I think he was temp checking.
When S was born I gave him my last name. He said this has been a huge deal for him and wants his last name changed. There is nothing that has really changed from the time we had him to now that makes me want to change his last name. I'm not sure it would have changed our relationship. He isn't a very active father. Sees his children the minimum time of every-other weekend. His father was a crappy dad and I think he just doesn't know how to be a good dad. A couple weeks after BD he told S he was going to get him Tuesday of that week. He didn't call or show up. I asked him about it later and he said I should I called him, he would have gotten him. In my mind, I didn't make the plans with S, he did, so why would I call to remind him of what he said. I was doubtful he would follow through when he said it.
