I definitely know what you mean. I would find relief just knowing my W was at work, and I actually knew where she was. I spent the better part of a year not knowing where she was, who she was with, or when she would be home. I would get home from work around 3, and she would leave around 4 and not come back home until 3/4 in the morning. That was probably 4-5 nights a week. My son was 13 when it started, and when he asked questions (when would she be home etc), she basically yelled at him. She did a complete 180. Sadly, I know if the tables were turned she would have left me the first week.
She has definitely rewritten the marriage. She makes it seem like she wasnt happy pretty much the entire time. Also, conveniently forgets all that Ive done for the family(we both sacrificed a lot).
Together:20 years M:3 years Me:40 WW:40 S15 A suspected:5/17 AC:5/18 BD:8/18 WW in full blown R w/ OM Still under same roof